The Power of Structure and Pastoral Care in Boarding House Administration
When I think about the boarding houses I’ve had the privilege of working with and guiding as a school administrator, one thing stands out: a thriving boarding house is one where structure meets a deep sense of belonging. These two elements are essential for the well-being and development of every child entrusted to our care.
For context, in case you are just meeting me, I have been a school administrator in four schools three of which had boarding facilities.
Why Structure is Non-Negotiable
Imagine a boarding house without clear rules, routines, or expectations. It would quickly descend into chaos. Children need structure to feel safe and grounded. They need to know when to wake up, when to study, when to relax, and when to sleep. A well-thought-out structure provides the rhythm that helps them thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.
But when I talk about structure, I am not referring to just about timetables and rules, There has to be consistency. When children know what to expect, it reduces anxiety for them and builds trust. They understand that they are in a safe environment, where their needs will be met, and they can focus on being the best version of themselves.
I’ve seen firsthand how a lack of structure can affect boarding house life. Students may become unruly, staff overwhelmed, and the overall atmosphere stressful. On the other hand, when structure is in place, everyone (students and staff alike) can operate with clarity and purpose.
The Heartbeat of Belonging
While structure provides a foundation, it is the sense of belonging that gives life to the boarding house. Children are not robots; they are individuals who crave connection, understanding, and love. This is where pastoral care becomes so important.
Pastoral care entails making sure every child feels valued and seen. It involves taking the time to listen when they have concerns, celebrating their achievements, and creating opportunities for them to bond with their peers. Children who feel like they belong are more likely to respect the structure in place because they understand it’s there to help them, not control them.
One of the most touching moments for me was when a student once said, “I feel like this place is my home.” That’s what we’re aiming for, and I hope that's what you are aiming for, too. We want the boarding house to feel like a family—a place where children feel safe, supported, and valued, even when they’re miles away from their biological families.
Bringing it All Together
The real magic happens when structure and belonging work hand in hand. Structure without belonging can feel cold and rigid. Belonging without structure can feel chaotic. But when both are present, the boarding house becomes a place of transformation.
Children learn responsibility within the framework of structure, and they grow emotionally through the warmth of pastoral care. As administrators and caregivers, we hold the key to striking that balance. It’s not always easy, but it is deeply rewarding.
Join Me to Learn More
If this resonates with you, I’d like to personally invite you to join my Boarding House Administration Training Cohort 9, happening online on the 4th and 5th of January 2025. This two-day training is packed with practical strategies to help you create a boarding house that is structured yet warm—a place where every child feels like they belong.
Feel free to reach out with any questions at +234 8035880367 or via email at pezusmithconsulting@gmail.com. Let’s work together to make your boarding house a haven for growth and excellence.
